CHILL

Did you read that comment on your post?
From a random stranger from across the coast
They said you are a joke and look fake
Oh sorry, did they make a mistake?
Why did you delete it, the person is online
Wait did you block them, are you feeling fine?
Wow your blocked list is pretty full
Why do you look like a raging bull?
Sorry, did that offend you, well its true
Damn, you’re so immature, did you really block me too?
I’m not a social butterfly but where have you been?
Girl, please take your face out of that screen
You remove and delete posts you don’t want to see
So you can continue acting like a total wanna-bee
If you can’t take criticisms well tough for you
Now you are acting like you don’t have a clue
People will say things that you don’t like
Time to walk away and take a hike
Get some fresh air and just embrace
You cannot keep clicking the button: ERASE
Everyone has an opinion that will come to bite you back
Darling, don’t take this as a personal attack
Just listen to what I’m saying even if you won’t take it in
You keep acting like this and I guarantee you’ll never win
Listen carefully, I will say this nice and slow
Cause I know your blocking finger is ready to go
You have to remember people can say what they will
Girl, log off your account, walk away and CHILL!

HAPPINESS

How do you do it every single day?
A piece of your heart you have to give away
Pleasing everyone is not the best thing
Pleasing yourself has a nicer ring
In this world, we need more laughter and smiles
Nothing can compare to how the sun shines for miles
Every day you can make a change by living a positive life
Simply ignore the bad memories and moments of strife
So, you can think more about yourself, never less
…Don’t allow others to downplay your happiness! 

Easy Peasy

My little sister is going to nursery in September and as a way of helping her learn some skills and educational lessons, her school has been sending my parents some games to play to help her learn. They recently went for a parents evening at her school to meet the teachers and discuss things we need to do to help her be prepared for the school year. The school is partnered with an app called Easy Peasy which has some weekly games that parents can play with their child. My mum was playing with Bea the other day and she is now obsessed with playing some of the activities.

She really liked the Stepping Stones game, where we had to cut several shapes (4 circles, 4 squares and 4 triangles) and placed a ball on the other side of the room. The shapes were spread out all over the floor (or river) and she had to step on 1 specific shape only in order to retrieve the ball. That was a good game to play as it helped her with her shape recognition (plus tired her out a bit lol). She also liked the Selfie game in which we all took selfies which depict different emotions. She then had to identify that emotion and describe that when she feels that emotion and why does she feel that way. The second part of the game she doesn’t have a full concept yet but she really enjoyed taking selfies on Snapchat and making faces. The last game she really enjoyed this week was the Patience game. The game was supposed to be done with strawberries but we used chocolate fingers instead (cause we didn’t have any strawberries). We had to hold the chocolate finger for one minute. It is to test your patience and has been researched to indicate that children who can wait for their food for at least one minute (no matter how tempting it is to lick or take a bite) are likely to become more successful in life. Bea did really well (plus we got to eat some chocolate fingers although I am on a diet lol). 

There were only a few games available but I think it’s a good idea to also have some home-learning aid to help boost their skills and get them more familiar with educational lessons they could be studying in school. We are all excited for the next set of games next week! 

A Different Kind of Independence

Why living at home with my family throughout university did not hinder my independence but gave me something much better

When I was deciding where to go for university there was a lot of talk about independence and moving away from home and basically living the “uni life” without the help of your parents and being more independent. A lot of my friends were excited to leave Cambridge and go somewhere else to explore a different surrounding and see how well they can cope being away from home. At one point, I also felt the need to go explore another place too and get away from home for a bit just to see what happens (I mean isn’t that what every college student wish for?)

In the middle of my final year of A-Levels, my mum announced that we are going to have another person in our family because she is pregnant. I was of course very happy for her and having another family member is an exciting thing so my parents thought that it would be a good idea for me to just stay in Cambridge and help them look after the baby. I wasn’t really sure what to say or think. When I told my friends that I might be staying in Cambridge for my university, it was definitely a bag of mixed reactions. Some of them understood that its the best thing to do as having a new member of the family is an adventure in itself but most of them had doubts about how my future will turn out. People would raise their eyebrows like I’m a crazy person and those who had some opinions to say expressed it loud and clear. Many people would tell me: “It’s your decision, but if it was me I wouldn’t stay”“Cambridge is a nice place but I’m going, to be honest, your university is not the best [compared to mine]”, “Why do you need to take care of the baby? It’s your parent’s child!” or “It’s your life, Trisha. You shouldn’t let your parents control what you should do”. Those doubts made me start to think of all the bad things that could happen if I did stay in Cambridge to study. But even though I was worried, my gut was telling me to stay, so I did.

After the three years at university and finally having time to reflect on the meaning of independence, I really believe I made the right decision for me. Some people might think that it was a forced decision and my parents made me stay but the reason I stayed wasn’t for them, it was for me. If I walked away and went to live in another city or town, I think I would have been very sad, especially after spending nearly 7 months with my baby sister, Bea. I got to know her and if I pictured myself somewhere else and not had gotten the chance to see her grow into the cheeky and cute 3-year-old she is now, I really would have regretted it. Many people still raise their eyebrows at me even now and still believe that I just let my parents “control” me. People cannot seem to process the fact that even if I chose to continue living with my family, my independence wasn’t hindered in any way. I was the one who chose my degree, I was the one who managed my finances and sorted out documents that were related to university and even though I was still eating and living under my parent’s roof, I learnt that independence is not about going on an adventure alone. Independence for me means that I get to choose the adventures I discover and I get to decide the people that become part of that adventure, in this case, my family. 

Being independent means recognising and learning skills that you need in life that you can use when life needs you to survive. Yes, independence also means not having to be reliant on other people like your family- but being with my family has made me stronger than ever as a person, a sister and a daughter. I got to make endless memories filled with arguments and laughter that going to another place would have taken away from me. It made me value my family more because no matter how much we fight or make fun of each other, we really love each other and nothing can replace family. So, I didn’t sacrifice independence and even if you think I did, you would be mistaken because I learnt that happiness comes from the simplest of things, from the people who are the closest to you, your family and that is something no one (no matter how you say you were right or I would have regretted it) can take away from me. 

Interview Clues

I am not an expert at interviews and to be honest if you are, you definitely have been to a lot in your life so far or you are just perfect. But since I have been to a few this last month I wanted to give my advice on how I dealt with my interviews and my top ten steps to getting some clues on the topic of interviews.


1. Research the Company
This is the first step that always comes up when I was searching for advice on how to deal with interviews. You need to go and research the company and just get some information from their website and look at the list of achievements they have accomplished as well as the future plans they have. This is not only beneficial for the person that will interview you in terms of finding out if you did some preparation before the interview but also a benefit for you. By researching the company’s policies and values, you are able to show the interviewer that you want to be part of their organisation as well as a deciding factor on whether their values will also meet your own.

2. Look at the job description
I know it could be boring to keep looking back at the job description especially since you probably spent a good long two days staring at it when completing your written application but I’m sure that looking at it some more will prepare you for the verbal interview. I spent a long time looking at it and breaking it down to the different sections they might test me on. I then proceeded to create an answer to each of the things they are looking for (including an example). This will prepare you with some answers to say during the interview, which I found really useful as I often become flustered and draw a blank. But having some answers ready to talk about it will help you create somewhat fluent sentences.

3. Look up possible interview questions
I found that looking up all the interview questions both general and specific will help you with creating effective answers ready for the interview. I spent a lot of time searching for all the possible questions they could ask me and writing answers for each of them. No one likes being interviewed and not knowing what to say is something I worried about especially after my first interview. I kept pausing and hesitating and biting the side of my mouth because I felt my answers weren’t strong enough (and tbh I just made it up on the spot), so having an answer ready to any interview question is a massive plus and will prevent any further stress to your interview day.

4.Pick a good outfit to wear
Nothing says I am ready than a polished outfit. Go and pick out a good outfit to wear that is well presentable and neat. You have just been invited for an interview and been researching so many questions and staring at your computer screen for two days straight. You need a break and what can be better than treating yourself to a shopping trip to buy some formal trousers or a nice blazer or even if you are really bad at timing and very last minute, go raid your closet and pick out all the pieces of clothing that are appropriate for an interview. If you feel good, then chances are you will feel ready (and a little gangster-may-care) for your interview.

5. Print out and folder ALL documents
I know printing can be difficult and time-consuming but hey making an extra effort to print out all the required documents to an interview which you could end up having is definitely worth it. Make sure you print out your CV, find your National Insurance paper, dig out your passport, birth certificate and even print out your application. Even if you think you might not need it, it might still help you in terms of revising over things you have previously said and showing your future employer that you can the right candidate they should be hiring. (plus it will make you look professional and organised if you carry a folder in lol). 

6. Plan your route
You need to plan your route and find out how you will get there at least a couple of days before your interview. Since I am not driving yet, I had to use the bus, so I needed to make sure that I withdrew money for bus fare and found out the right time to leave the house to get the right bus. If you are going to take a car, make sure you know if parking is available where you are going as well as any delays happening on the roads. This also goes for if you need to still walk further to arrive in the right room or department. The important thing is not to be late cause if you are late then it will make the interviewer question your punctuality.

7.More Research. 
Keep researching about the company and things they have done in the past and something you can relate to. Think of more examples that you can bring up when they ask you questions (this is really important if you haven’t had much experience like me). Look at reviews on the company and search on the internet for forums where people were interviewed for a similar position to yours. Look up more advice that other people have to calm your nerves or make you stand out (there are dozens on the internet that can help you, so just keep researching). This will also help when your mind goes blank to insert things you have learnt just to buy time to think of an answer. 

8. Get advice on the right interview etiquette
If you have to ask your family, your parents, grandparents, aunts, older siblings or join a forum, you need to know the proper etiquette and mannerisms interviewers are looking for. These are things such as making eye contact, staying polite and respectful throughout, displaying a sense of humour without laughing or trying to joke with the interviewer. To be honest, this step is just common sense but is still an important one to keep in mind and remember that how you behave with your family or friends is not the same way you should treat a random stranger that is interviewing you and will potentially give you a job.

9. Prepare everything the night before
This is a must if you know you are a last minute person and time-management isn’t your best skill. Go and prepare everything you need for the following day so to avoid making yourself panic more than you need to. Get all your documents printed and placed in a folder and even inside your bag. Put your keys, wallet and other essentials inside the bag as well. Iron and place your outfit on the closet handle ready for the following day. Make sure you brush through your hair, cut your nails and also shave any hair which they might notice (especially if you are a girl and will be wearing a dress, shave your armpits and legs and maybe your arms – if it is really hairy). 

10. Get a good night sleep
Finally, sleep. You need a great sleep ready for tomorrow. By getting a great sleep you will feel refreshed and will be as ready as you could ever be to go ace that interview. Just keep breathing and don’t panic. When you get there, go straight to the bathroom if you have time, so you can fix yourself and look proud in that mirror. Then go find the room (make sure you arrive at least 10 minutes before the time allotted) and knock on that door of opportunity. You can do this!


If you have any more advice for interviews or past experiences you would like to share, leave a comment in the section below.

Always Love

I’m not perfect, don’t you mind
I’m not a winner, don’t go blind
I work hard and try my best
I do that and God does the rest
I think, write and draw
I am human not made of straw
I have soul and heart
I didn’t get the head start
They are angry, they never chill
They should start now or they never will
They criticise and continually speak
But they do not know, I’m not weak
I know life can be hard and it is short
Knock walls down and go build a fort
Just stand freely and let them see you cry
If they don’t want you. bid them goodbye
Cross the road, change paths and run
You can choose to be free and just have fun
If they can’t accept you for who you are
Ignore them, walk away, they will never get far
Just remember to have faith and hope
You will make it, you can cope
Just pray and hold the dove
Just remember to always love

The End

I gave you my love and my body
I gave you laughs and our own parody
I gave you plenty of kisses and hugs
I gave you all my secrets on the rugs
I gave you hints that I want you
I had no doubt you want me too
I gave you everything so we can be together
I gave you my world and all you say is “Whatever”
I gave you passionate kisses and you say “It’s okay”
You talk so much of your best mate…Dude are you gay?
You talk so much about her and your past
You talk more about that bitch and I’ll be your last
You talk and talk and talk some more
But now it’s my turn, you’re a real bore
Let me list all the things you can’t have
Even if you want it so much, bruv!
You can’t have my perky breasts
Unless you grow some hair on your chest
You can’t have my kisses with tongue
Do you even know what you’ve become?
You can’t have the time that has passed
You certainly can’t have my beautiful ass
You can’t have the thing between my legs
No matter how you crawl, plead or even beg
I am through being lover’s fool
I’d rather date a dying mule
I’d rather stay single forever
Just face it, we can’t be together
Because I’m uptight and you’re just wrong
Grow some abs darling, you’ll never be strong
You think you were winning before
Well, not anymore, close the f***ing door
I don’t want to see your face
I don’t need your sweaty embrace
I don’t want your small dick
Get a life cause you are just a prick
Let me tell you I am amazing in bed
I can really mess with a boy’s head
So unless you can still grow your stick
Time is running out so be quick
Before I let you have me in your room
Before this “relationship” can resume
I have one rule in the plan
I only give my body to a man
So since you are not that, let’s say “Adios”
You are just the garbage boy, I want the BOSS!